An apology and an announcement

I have been informed via email that the title of this site may be considered offensive. I deeply apologize for my ignorance and insensitivity. There doesn’t appear to be a way to change the URL of wordpress.com hosted sites without starting a whole other site, so that’s what I’ll be doing. Effective immediately, I will be moving over to chillysquid.wordpress.com. All of the old posts from this site, along with the comments and media files, will be moved to the new place.

An apology and an announcement

Settled question

Redd*t: I [F27] found out my fiancé [M30] settled for me, what do I do??

I don’t normally link to Redd*t stuff, but Nicole Cliffe’s twitted this and it kind of caught my interest. The consensus seems to be that this lady should dump her fiance. I have no take on the issue: I don’t understand relationships at all, so the last thing I should do is give advice. I merely observe in horror.

The reason this thread caught my attention though, is that every woman in my family has a story about the man they should have ended up with, rather than the idiot with whom they are now currently stuck. The men, on the other hand, will only say how lucky they feel they are to be with the women they’re attached to. For a long time, I assumed this was normal. Men are lucky; women settle.

As I got older, I eventually realized just how lousy and low-quality the men in my family generally are, and how that could lead to this lopsided perception that the best a man could do was be “better than nothing” as far as relationships went. Pretty gross. Especially when you consider that most of the dudes in my family only manage to get married by either being the first guy a girl has ever seriously dated, or by being the last man standing after a woman has blown it with all of her other options.

But observing the consensus response here (which says that if your partner is “settling” for you, then they should immediately be dumped), puts my family of origin into sharp relief, and reinforces the notion that a relationship should be built only between two people who can’t imagine themselves being with anyone else. In other words, my family sucks, and I wish I’d been raised by slightly more normal people.

Settled question

Heart of the cards

Fuck Yeah Tarot Decks is a tumblr dedicated to the resurgence of interest—tinged as it is in irony and self-reflection—in divinatory decks and the many awesome franchises and tropes they can be adapted to.” From: Tarot decks curated / Boing Boing

Pretty neat. I’ve been collecting Tarot decks off and on for about 20 years now, as I have a weird obsession with card decks, and also I’m terrified of the future, so I’m constantly looking for anything that might give me an edge. I’m currently off collecting these days (and I gave away most of my decks to people who would use them more than I do), but if I ever get some unspoken for cash, I might look into getting back to it.

Heart of the cards

What?!

“Dr. Teeth And The Electric Mayhem were the eclectic house band from The Muppet Show, but even though the Muppets themselves aren’t too busy these days, the group still hasn’t been putting on very many live performances for some reason. That finally changed over the weekend…” From: Dr. Teeth And The Electric Mayhem make their festival debut · The A.V. Club

They totally sold out, man. Outside Lands is a soft-handed festival for rich middle-aged people. (Duran Duran is playing this year FFS.)

What?!

No kidding, huh

Slashdot: Stopping Trolls Is ‘Now Life and Death For Twitter’, Argues Backchannel

Um, yeah? If the main thing your company is selling is unfettered interaction with everything humanity has to offer, perhaps you should have realized that humanity fucking sucks before you even wrote a single line of code. That way, you could have baked some moderation into the base of the product, rather than having to play catch-up.

It would have been easier at the start, no? “All right, let’s make it so everyone can talk to anyone. Oh wait, people are shit, let’s plan around that.”

No kidding, huh